Joined Feb 18 2014
An educational professional who thought he was smart enough to see through ANY possible marriage scam. Not so. I married my far Eastern wife after having conversed on an internet dating site for over a year. Then we met up several times and had a great relationship. Everything seemed perfect, we got married in the uk after I brough her here on a fiance visa. We live perfectly happily together for 2 years. Then she asked if we could bring her daughter to the uk, and of course I was happy with that, in fact I never understood why she preferred to leave her with relatives in China and often asked her to bring her over. So I was happy she wanted to do so now. Of course, being a "sucker" and perfectly relaxed about it all now after being happily married for a while, I hadn't realised the 2 year residence requirement for indefinite leave had been surpassed. So of course she flies home, gets her daughter, calls me wto ask if I'm at the airport when she is back, which I thought was strange since I told her I would be working when they arrived here. Of course she was simply checking to make sure I wasn't at the airport so they could make good their escape to another British city. Which is exactly what happened. I was devastated at the time, and for a long time I believed her excuses that it was actually ME who had caused the problem with my unreasonable husbandly demands forcing her to leave. Looking back it's all perfectly clear what had happened. And like my colleagues in the group here, I felt foolish and humiliated because I suspected that most friends and family probably suspected her motives right from the beginning, but of course, love is blind. It's also painful when it's betrayed. I also have a lovely female friend who married an African male, spent fortunes and years trying to get him here, and as soon as he got here and did his 2 years, he was off. So now, yes I believe it is time the British government criminalise such abuses and enact laws where such perpretators can and should be sent back home. Yes, some marriages break down naturally, but when it can be shown clearly that abuse of the person and the system has taken place, then a crime has clearly been committed and that person should be repatriated.
My best wishes to all, and remember, you're worth a hell of a lot more than these scumbags would have you believe.